I know it is hump day and the brain may be a little fried already from the start of the week, but let’s have a heart to heart talk today.
Recently I saw an article shared on Facebook that caught my attention. Often times I simply skim the articles or do not bother reading further than the title of the articles that are shared. The article titled “5 things to do while you are single” captured my interest. As a single 20-something who thoroughly enjoys single life, some would argue I enjoy single life too much, I wanted to know what someone would suggest that single should be doing.
Here is what Jarrid Wilson suggested;
1) Be Firm in your faith.
2) Get grounded in your personal identity
3) Focus on school, or starting your career
4) Learn to be independent until needed otherwise.
5) Stop dating people you know aren’t right for you.
Jarrid’s suggestions got me thinking about how these 5 things have/are playing out in my life currently. As the day progressed I could not stop thinking about how much I am enjoying my life right now. I am doing what I enjoy. I am surrounded by people who challenge, encourage and love me. I am pursuing my dreams and passions. I view singleness as a chapter in my life.
Then, I got incredibly sad for all the people who I know who are not content in their singleness. These individuals feel paralysed by their singleness. They are lonely. Some feel that there is no purpose in their lives. They have no direction. My heart aches for these individuals. It is my prayer that they may become content in their singleness and that they learn to grow as individuals and learn from this particular chapter in their lives. I also pray that they do not settle or lower their standards for a girlfriend or boyfriend out of desperation.
Yes, being single is not always easy. I do struggle with this chapter of my life from time to time. Being the third wheel gets old. I am so over the questions “Are you dating anyone?” or “Have you been on any dates recently?” and the statement “I have a great guy I want you to meet.” is like nails on a chalk board. I will tell people when I am in a relationship and am ready to share that news and do not tell me you have someone great for me to meet if you have no plans on having follow through or if the guy is not looking for a relationship. End of rant.
98% of time I am thankful for this chapter in my life. In the last 6 years, I have; gone through the process of finding my own church home. Joined a small group at church, that is supportive and is doing life together. I learned that I possess great strengths and have learned how they play out in my life both personally and professionally. Learned that I have to embrace some of my “Type A” ways and let other things go. Found my passion for running, which has now lead into my passion for triathlons. Learned to cook (I seriously caught pasta on fire once before learning how to cook) and bake and discovered that I love spending time preparing food, as well as eating good food. I started school and am obtaining a degree that I am interested in and excited about pursuing. I left a job that paid the bills easily and that gave me good experience, but ultimately sucked life of me. I accepted a job that gives my life great purpose and feeds my passion of running, triathlons and changing people’s lives. Learned to fix plumbing issues by myself. Learned how to change a bike tire like a boss. Dating? I have high standards and my time and heart is worth a lot.
When the time is right for me to move to the next chapter of life, I will welcome it with open arms. I am praying for the man God has picked out for me. I am praying that he is currently enjoying his single years to the fullest. I am praying that I am prepared for the next chapter of my life.
Till the time is right, I will continue to enjoy my singleness.
Enjoy the singleness. Grow with contentment. Chase your dreams and passions. Pray for the next chapter of your life, but don’t let it consume you.
Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it. ~ Proverbs 4:23
~A single chick